Dear No One – Tori Kelly


Every once in a while I happen to stumble upon a song, usually via pandora, 8tracks or YouTube recommendations, that perfectly sums up how I feel at that moment. This song, Dear No One by Tori Kelly, is one of those.

I’m 22 and I’ve had one semi serious relationship and a slew of fun, but overall insignificant flings. I’m not ashamed of that history because every romantic entanglement has taught me something, made me grow as a person. The reasons behind my romantic history include me having high standards for who I chose to be in a relationship with and another part of it is honestly that I enjoy Independence. I’ve always been proud of that fact that I’m strong, that I’m the type of girl that is pining for a new boyfriend as soon as she breaks up with the old boyfriend. I’m know what I want. I’m direct and I push. I get things done, and often when I see my friends with boyfriends that keep them so consumed I’m happy I don’t have one.

Yet I also believe that at some point I’m gonna meet someone who I’ll fall in love with and that will be it. In one fell swoop I won’t be able to be alone anymore. And for the longest time I searched for this person, trying to see him in every smile and flirty encounter with the men around me. But recently, as I come to the end of my college, career and I become a woman versus a girl or a young woman I’ve figured out that I can’t keep building up this perfect man in my head. Because no one is perfect and timing is never perfect. But timing can be right and when the timing is right, when all the pieces of my life are in the right position I know God will bring that ‘someone’ to me. But for now I’m happy being me. I’m happy loving my family and my friends.

I’m happy working to improve and push myself. And while yes, like the song says, sometimes I want somebody to hold me, I’m not going to let that search define me. I’m gonna be me. I’m going to fight for my dreams, for my future, for the people I love and as I strive towards the purpose I believe God has given my life I’ll meet him along the way. But for now, its about me, not him and this song perfectly sums up my relationship to romance right now and besides that its a beautiful song sung by a gorgeous girl.

Let me know what you think 🙂

Don’t Be The Playdough in Your Relationships

So Valentines Day is just around the corner and as you know my book “The Guys The Roses & The Regrets; The Girl to Girl Dating Guideis all about dating and relationships so Valentines Day is a big day of the year for me. I go to conferences, I do interviews and in general I get the word out about me and my book.
The other day I was doing an interview and as always I was talking about how important it is to know who you are before you enter into any romantic relationship. It’s important to know who you are because when you go into a relationship you are going to be changed. That relationship will affect you whether that be a good or bad thing.
So as I was talking something slipped out I said that if you go into a relationship before you know who you are its kinda like being Playdough. Because you’re mushy, easy to change and easy to mess up. You go into the relationship as Playdough and the guy messes with you, changes you, then the relationship doesn’t work out and you’re left as some weird sculpture (like the one in the photo). All because you were mushy Playdough in the first place! Does that make sense? I thought it was a kinda cool comparison for relationships.
The point of the whole Playdough thing is that you shouldn’t be Playdough. You should already be a sculpture before you enter any relationship. You should know who you are, what you stand for, what you want to be, what you want from the relationship and what your boundaries are. Knowing these things makes you a firm sculpture before you enter the relationship and of course you are going to alter a little but the guy won’t be able to make you into whatever kind of sculpture he wants because you’re already a strong sculpture.
I hope that made sense and made you think about relationships. It was just a quick interesting relationship tip I wanted to share with you so remember don’t be the Playdough in your relationships. Know exactly what kind of sculpture you are before you get involved in any relationship =]
Look out for lots more posts from me on the run up to Valentines Day like I said its a really busy time for me so I will be posting like those crazy bloggers who never leave their computers 😛 However if you want to keep up with me every minute of ever day (stalk much :P) you can follow me on Twitter @gracehatton
Well thats it for now so until next time, be blessed, stay strong and remember Don’t Be The Playdough!
God Bless,
Grace Hatton – Best Selling Teen Author